Hello friends! I hope that you are keeping safe this fall. It's been a doozy and I hope that it's going to let up soon. If I’m being honest, I feel a bit silly sharing what I've been up to when there's so much of great consequence going on in the world but I want to hear what you're up to and so, I'm sharing what's happening with me. Last week, out walking, I saw a pair of owls. I rarely, more like never see them in LA, and then, there they were, hooting, it was magical. When I reflect on what to write about in my newsletter, I think a lot about all the wonderful people I’ve been in conversation with or whose work I’ve had the pleasure of reading and watching. There are moments when I let it sink in the amount of talented and generous people I have in my life. There are moments, honestly, that I wish I could go back to my younger selves (and in therapy I do) and tell them, “You are not alone. And someday you will know it in your bones.” Most days, I know it. Thank you for being a part of that knowledge. 1. New Writing from Me! I’m busy working on my memoir and co-editing (with Lynn Shattuck) Loss of a Lifetime: Advice from Grieving Siblings on Love, Loss and Hope so it’s a special treat to have some writing to share with you. Mercy at Parley Lit This is a first for me. An animated essay! I want to thank Asha Dore for her supportive edits and gorgeous animation. It was a joy working with Asha and Parley Lit on this essay, Mercy. It's a vulnerable and personal one and I'm grateful for their encouragement and support. Match Point at 5 Minute Lit I love flash pieces and I'm happy to share this one about 5 minutes of my life. If you’re looking for places to submit, I would highly recommend both. 2. To Hold The Night Screenings in Los Angeles, Dallas and London, Ontario Look at us (me, Jessica Petelle and Jen Prince) holding the awards for To Hold The Night’s three wins at Simi Film Fest! To Hold The Night was nominated in nine (!!!) categories and brought home three trophies: Best Editing - Maxyme Tremblay Best Costumes - Nola Chaters Best Hair and Makeup - Dylan Twigg & Jaye Falcioni I’m forever struck by the level of craft and artistry that everyone brought to To Hold The Night, it was such a thrill seeing them recognized at this level. After fantastic screenings at Simi Film Fest and Toronto Shorts International Film Festival we are excited to screen at three more festivals this month: Topanga Film Festival: Screening this Saturday, October 19th at 3pm I will be there and I would love it if you come by and say hi! TICKETS HERE Topaz Film Festival in Dallas: Screening this Saturday, October 19th and Jessica Petelle (Director/Producer) will be there, if you’re in the Dallas area, go check it out! Forest City Film Festival in London, Ontario: Screening Saturday, October 26th at 10am. Jessica Petelle (Director/Producer), Brad Turner (Cinematographer/Producer), Nikki Andrew (Producer) and more will be there. It’s going to be a fantastic screening! And this absolutely incredibly review from The Independent Critic, Richard Propes. When writing something, what keeps me going (and I think most of us) is the hope and belief that our writing will mean something to someone. And when I find out that it does, it’s the best. #154 Colleen Golafshan #155 Andréa Ferrell Gannon #156 Katie Ware #157 Charlotte Wilkins #158 Jacque Gorelick #159 Shoshana Koch #160 Diane Zinna #161 Claire Polders I love every single poem that I’ve heard over the past three years and this batch is no exception. It brings shape to my life every week and these poems and conversations are incredible. I issue this open invite every newsletter and I mean it, please reach out if you’re interested in joining me. I would love it! 4. Comics Lit t’s out in the world! And I love all of the essays in the collection. If you love comics, this book is for you. Thank you to A.R. Farina and Tonya Todd for their invitation to join this collection and for all of their hard work and thoughtful edits along the way.
ORDER HERE 5. What I've Been Watching and Reading Sexism and Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World by Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD This is a great book. It combines research, Finkelstein’s own experiences and stories from her psychology practice. Plus razor sharp insights like this one: “For as long as I can remember, I was told girls can anything boys can be. I’ve never heard, however, the phrase, ‘boys can be anything girls can be.’” Everywhere I Look: a Memoir by Ona Gritz What a gorgeous book about sibling loss and family secrets. It also happens to be our selection for Sibling Loss Book Club on Monday, October 21st at 4pm PDT/7pm EDT. There is still time for RSVP. Please join us for a conversation with Ona, even if you haven’t read the book, I guarantee it’s going to be incredible. If you’re still with me, thanks for taking the time. I hope you’re well and I’d love to hear what you’re reading or watching or if you’ve seen any owls lately. Whatever speaks to you, let me know. May we all find a moment(s) of joy and moment(s) of peace amidst the din. XO. Alyson
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Hello All! I hope you are having a lovely summer. Mine has been mixed, I've been sidelined with a pinched nerve for most of it but I am beginning to feel better after a rough six weeks (WOO HOO!!!) and I'm also grateful for all of the wonderful news I get to share with you. 1. To Hold The Night Premiere To Hold The Night will be premiering at the TORONTO SHORTS INTERNATIONAL FILM FESTIVAL - Toronto Shorts is the largest short film festival in Canada. This festival is August 22nd - 25th at Innis Town Hall Theatre at the University of Toronto. If you're in Toronto, please check it out! Our screening is SUNDAY, AUGUST 25th @ 5PM. Jessica Petelle (Director/Producer) and many cast and crew plan to be in attendance. It is guaranteed to be a fantastic experience! LINK to tickets HERE. 2. To Hold The Night Trailer It's here! It's gorgeous and we love it! If you haven't already seen us share it on Instagram @toholdthenightfilm you can use this link to watch it now. Or, if all goes according to plan, it’s right here! 3. To Hold The Night LA Screening Our second festival is in California where we’ll be screening as an Official Selection at SIMI FILM FEST September 5th - 8th in Simi Valley. Jessica, Jen Prince (producer) and I (along with Cody) will be there. Please come join us! Our screening is Saturday, 7th at 7:15pm. Here's a link to buy tickets. 4. Sibling Loss Book Club and Newsletter Our next Sibling Loss Book Club is rapidly approaching. It's this coming Monday, August 19th at 4pm PDT/7pm EDT on Zoom. We are reading Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourner's Guide to Grief by Annie Sklaver Orenstein. Annie will be joining us in conversation and I cannot recommend this book highly enough to anyone grieving a sibling, no matter where you are on your grief journey. SIGN UP for Sibling Loss Book Club HERE I recorded an episode of Femme on Creatives with Annie. We had such an incredible conversation and I know the book club is going to be a special one. I also attended her book signing in LA (pre pinched nerve) and had the privilege of meeting her in real life! Also, our Sibling Loss Newsletter went out this week. In it, I write about how my brother Michael died 40 years ago this month, and my associated shame with not handling it "right." You can subscribe to the Loss of a Lifetime newsletter HERE. 5. Where I'm From Hits #150! One thing I managed to do, even in the throes of pain (I couldn't do much typing, sitting, driving or sleeping) but I could host Where I'm From! And I did. A series of incredible guests joined me. #141 Jackie Tempera #142 Jennie Burke #143 Micah Klassen #144 Hannah Sward #145 Kristine Kopperud #146 Olga Katsovskiy #147 Molly Fowkes #148 Ona Gritz #149 Freda Love Smith #150 Rebecca Morrison #151 Kim Kelly Stamp #152 Judy Lipson #153 Colette Freedman As always, please let me know if you're interested in joining me, the more the merrier. 6. What I've Been Watching The OLYMPICS. I’m not going to wax philosophical because this is already the most I’ve typed in seven weeks, instead I’m going to say they were inspiring, awesome and just what I needed in my life. I loved them and I am very excited to watch the Paralympics starting August 28th. Oh and LA28. I can’t wait!!! (I know the traffic is going to be bad, no duh, but I’m still excited). 7. My husband, Cody, won an Emmy At the Daytime Emmys for Hack My Home on Netflix. He’s always amazing but the way he cared for me this summer, when I was really vulnerable and hurting, meant more than I’m going to be able to communicate in this newsletter. He’s my rock star, I love him and now he’s an Emmy Winner.
Love to all of you. Alyson Hello All! And welcome to my newsletter, now on Substack. This is still a free newsletter. Sadly, the old home for my newsletter, Tiny Letter, closed and I needed to find a new spot. This is where I landed. It's been a busy and beautiful Spring! After a very rainy winter in LA there was a lot of talk about super blooms, but we didn't have one, mostly because of the cold and rain that hung on well into April. And yet, it's still been a gorgeous spring here and I've enjoyed the flowers, cool breezes and mostly blue skies. Sibling Loss Website and Book Club As many of you know, my brother Michael died when I was 10 years old. It was devastating and yet, we kept living, and didn't talk that much about him, other than in passing. Over the years, my stomach would tie in knots every time someone asked me, "How many siblings do you have?" The present tense would throw me. "Well, I have three." But that felt like a lie. I grew up with four. I feel like my four brothers provided much of the foundation (faulty or not) for my young life. But I didn't know how to talk about it and so I didn't. During the pandemic I was introduced to Lynn Shattuck's writing on sibling loss, she gave words to so many things I'd felt and thought. Her writing was a gift to me and helped me grieve, all these years later. And then we became friends. What a joyous surprise. Eventually, we began talking about expanding ideas Lynn has been working on for years. Along with Molly Fowkes, we are building a sibling loss community with a gorgeous website, designed and built by Molly (that will continue to grow and evolve). I'm so proud of all of our work. We have our first sibling loss book club next week, Monday, May 13th with author Anne Pinkerton and her book, Were You Close?(Another question I would get asked that would tie my stomach in knots). And we have many more book clubs planned. Lynn and I are also co-editing an anthology on Sibling Loss, entitled, The Loss of a Lifetime: Advice from Grieving Siblings on Loss, Love and Hope. And as we edit the anthology, we are incredibly moved by all the writing of our peers. Comics Lit, Vol. 1 Speaking of essay collections, I'm thrilled to share that Comics Lit, Vol. 1 will be published October 2nd. I contributed an essay on Black Widow and I loved the opportunity to think and write about all that she means to me. Here's the fantastic cover! Here are our pre-order links! You can purchase directly from the publisher for a 15% discount, or at full price at the usual A & B options. Here's a snippet of the blurb: "This essay collection illustrates that modern pop culture characters are direct descendants of classic works of literature." Where I'm From A weekly dose of joy for me. So grateful for everyone who participates! Please let me know if you are interested in joining me. The more the merrier! #127 Nicole Graev Lipson #128 joj #129 Joanna Rakoff #130 Jocelyn Jane Cox #131 Debbie Weiss #132 Mimi Zieman #133 Megan Hutchings #134 Jenny Bartoy #135 Annie Finch #136 Diane Gottlieb #137 Anna Abraham Gasaway #138 Melinda Gordon Blum #139 Nikki Andrew #140 Alana Omolayole Femme On So many fun conversations with incredible people, and what a treat to sit down with George Ella Lyon for a chat for National Poetry Month. George Ella is a funny, honest and engaging person when talking about anything and her wisdom about creativity is a balm. Love any excuse to talk with her. Most recent Femme On Creatives episodes: *With George Ella Lyon: Alyson and George Ella discuss poetry, her Where I'm Frompoem, the creative life and more! *With Sarah Gristwood: Ria and Alyson speak with best-selling feminist author, Sarah Gristwood, about her just released book, Secret Voices: A Year of Women's Diaries * With Kim Rowe: Ria speaks with Kim and Alyson about a framework they created entitled; Me, Shining that focuses on female friendships and how they mirror parts of ourselves. Most recent Fine Cut episodes:
Megan Hutchings - The family scene from the 2006 film, Candy. Jessica Waite - The reunion scene in the 2015 film Room. Michelle Yang - The restaurant scene in the 2024 TV show, Mr. & Mrs. Smith. What I'm Watching Challengers I just saw this movie last night. And for anyone who knows me, Call Me By Your Name (also directed by Luca Guadagnino) is one of my faves. It's sexy as hell, gorgeous to watch and emotionally resonant. I would say the same for Challengers. Plus, I grew up watching and playing tennis and felt like they nailed so much of the dynamics, physicality and language of the sport. What I'm Reading A Ghost in the Throat by Doireann Ní Ghríofa A compelling book about obsession and how it shapes our lives. Doireann is an Irish poet who finds herself wrapped up in her young family and in her stolen moments, the life and work of 18th century Irish poet, Eibhlín Dubh Ní Chonaíl. It is an exploration of female texts and their often invisible nature, at least in the eyes of history. The Future by Naomi Alderman A fictional book (from the author of The Power) about a potential near future that starts out, a bit dark, but I think it finds its way through the challenges to a place I would call hopeful. And the research is incredibly impressive. Impossible People: A Completely Average Recovery Story by Julia Wertz A graphic memoir about the ups and downs of recovery. I loved the graphic nature of this book, it took a potentially heavy story and infused it with levity. Thank you for subscribing to my newsletter and supporting my work with your time and energy. It means a lot! Much love, Alyson Happy 2024 to all! Starting out with a bit of housekeeping, Tiny Letter, which hosts my newsletter, is closing at the end of the month. So I will be switching to another provider. Don't be alarmed, it's still me! Thank you to everyone who subscribes. I really appreciate your support and I hope to see some of you in real life as our film To Hold The Night hits the festival circuit later this year. WOW! Gorgeous Poster by Elise McCall To Hold The Night is complete! The picture is locked, the sound is mixed, the digital copy is in our inboxes. We made a film! I am so proud of our whole team, and extra especially Jessica Petelle, director/producer/visionary who said, back in August, “Let’s make this film.” And so we did. Cast, crew, locations and magic all came together in a way I’ve never experienced before. And all along she would say, “I think we’ll finish by the end of January” (while also sharing all the deadlines along the way) “and we’ll be ready to submit it to festivals.” And we are! This film is a dream come true for me. I wouldn’t change one thing about it. Truly. And while I’m so ready to share it with people, I wasn’t itching to be finished, I enjoyed the process that much. Like I said, magic! For those of you who’ve been kind enough ask how you can see To Hold the Night, it’s a process. We will be submitting to festivals and hosting screenings, we’ll let you know if it’s coming to a city near you. (I hope to see you there!) I’m so excited at the prospect of sharing it with you. The cast and crew all did superlative work. It’s a gem of a film. Above is a still from the first scene, featuring the exceptional Anwen O’Driscoll as Nadine, the wonderful Kelsey Falconer as Sharon, all of our background actors and a VERY IMPRESSIVE bonfire and Lake Huron shimmering in the background. More to come, stay tuned! Where I'm From Still Going Strong! This series continues to be a weekly source of joy and inspiration for me. Thank you to all of the participants! Most recent poems: 2023 #115 Seth Singleton #116 Sarah Leibov #117 Melissa Greenwood #118 Anne Pinkerton #119 Mary Butler #120 Tamara MC #121 Krista Turnbull 2024 #122 Lisa Cooper Ellison #123 Kelly McMasters #124 Joelle Tamraz #125 Alyson Shelton (2024 Version) #126 Jennifer Lang Femme On Hits 100 episodes! Thank you to all of the ladies of Femme On: Tonya, Ada, Jess and our producer and leader Ria, we wouldn't be here without you! Please take a moment to rate, review and follow us on your podcast platform annnnnnd if you'd like to join me on Fine Cut to talk about a scene from your favorite book, movie, TV show, etc., let me now, I'd love to chat! Most recent episodes: 15/Krista Schafer - Alyson and Krista discuss the opening scene from Slings & Arrows. 16/Ann Kelly, Nina Lichtenstein, Sandell Morse and Kim Ruehl discuss one of the final scenes in Good Luck to You, Leo Grande. What I'm Reading This Country: Searching for Home in (Very) Rural America by Navied Mahdavian A gorgeous graphic memoir about Mahdavian's time in rural Idaho; what brings he and his wife there and why they ultimately decide to leave. The Collected Schizophrenias: Essays by Esmé Weijun Wang Wang writes powerfully and vulnerably about her journey with schizoaffective disorder It's a great primer if you know nothing about the disorder and it goes far deeper, communicating in specific and rich detail, how it is to be in the world, grappling with mental illness. Congratulations, the Best is Over! and Here for It; Or, How to Save Your Soul in America: Essays by R. Eric Thomas Funny, thoughtful, readable books that you won't want to put down. I'm looking forward to 2024! In fact I just had a big birthday (50!!!). It was a really beautiful day & I FELT THE LOVE. I was surrounded by family and friends and flooded with gratitude to be here, in the life that I'm in.
Thank you for being a part of it. And one last thought, I recently read the book I Quit Everything by Freda Love Smith and she proposes trading in the term crone for queen. Like: Maiden/Mother/Queen and I’m into it! Love to you all! Alyson Hello All! I hope that you are finding ways to care for yourself and your loved ones right now, when the world feels incredibly vulnerable and the grief is palpable. To Hold the Night (formerly The Night We Met) Since my last update, in early August, we made a short film, *Photo by Peter Mabrucco I wasn't sure, going into it, how it would feel being on set again. (it's been AWHILE) And yet, I knew I wanted to be there and that I used to love it. I also knew that if Jessica Petelle and Jen Prince and me, were producing a film I wrote and Jessica was directing, there was no place I would rather be. It's essential to show up when dreams are actually coming true. I loved it. All over again. And to be clear, it wasn't just any set, it was our set. Led by five female producers (Jessica, Jen, Alana Omolayole, Nikki Andrew and me along with a incredibly supportive and enthusiastic male producer, Brad Turner) and a lead actress, Anwen O'Driscoll, that blew us all away. And we were in a community (Bayfield, Ontario) full of wildly supportive and caring people. And yes, the weather, was incredible. *Photo by Dianne Brandon It was magic. I look forward to sharing updates with you as we move through post-production and into festivals. PAHS (Project for Advancing Healthcare Stewardship) Right after returning from Canada, I guest facilitated a forum for PAHS through The University of Minnesota. One of the joys of facilitating was choosing a leader to share for ten minutes to kick off the meeting. I didn't hesitate before reaching out to Kim Rowe. Her presentation on living with chronic illness affected all of us. And the close reading of Ada Limón's "Instructions on Not Giving Up" and subsequent writing prompt felt like a supportive and generative space to inhabit as the horrific violence in the Middle East continued to intensify. *Photo by Marisa Vitale choose Ada Limón's poem because of how it makes me feel, every single time I read it. If you have a moment, read Limón’s poem and sit with it. Or think of a natural phenomena that speaks to you; the crash of the waves, The Northern Lights, the patter of rain on your car window, an epic sunset and let it wash over you. Instructions on Not Giving Up By Ada Limón More than the fuchsia funnels breaking out of the crabapple tree, more than the neighbor’s almost obscene display of cherry limbs shoving their cotton candy-colored blossoms to the slate sky of Spring rains, it’s the greening of the trees that really gets to me. When all the shock of white and taffy, the world’s baubles and trinkets, leave the pavement strewn with the confetti of aftermath, the leaves come. Patient, plodding, a green skin growing over whatever winter did to us, a return to the strange idea of continuous living despite the mess of us, the hurt, the empty. Fine then, I’ll take it, the tree seems to say, a new slick leaf unfurling like a fist to an open palm, I’ll take it all. There is still time to sign up for the November Forum and it's free! Where I'm From and Fine Cut I continue to have the great pleasure of sitting down with people I admire and immerse myself in their childhoods, their thoughts and their passions. Where I'm From #101 Natasha Israni #102 Karen DeBonis #103 Julie Cantrell #104 Linda Jellison #105 Gina Ransom #106 Grace Talusan #107 Katie Post #108 Amy Hruby #109 Angie Chatman #110 Blair Glaser #111 Dave Horrocks #112 Rebekkah Dilts #113 Wendy Wimmer #114 Jessica Waite Fine Cut 13/Bryan Holdman 14/Lori Arend What I'm Reading Women Holding Things by Maira Kalman is a book that makes me wish I had a million dollars to spend on books. I would buy one for each of you and mail it to your house. It is a book that is easy to pick and put down and not feel guilty doing either, it'll wait. It feels like a perfect book for now, when we are all holding so much. And it is a book that acknowledges that women hold it differently. Wannabe: Reckonings with the Pop Culture that Makes Me by Aisha Harris is an enjoyable and thought-provoking read blending criticism and memoir. The way she weaves it all together is impressive and she touches on a variety of topics and her references that are fresh. So fresh!
Thank you for being on this journey with me. I know it's a difficult time and the celebration of small or large joys can feel kinda icky or pointless but I appreciate you taking the time to read through mine and give them some space in your life. I am here to celebrate your joys and successes, please share them. And if you'd like to join me for a poem, I'm serious, join me! I'm booked through April, so you have lots of time to think. Also, if you'd like to talk about a scene for Fine Cut, email me. Happy Friday! And weekend. And I hope we each get one or two moments to breath this weekend. Much love, Alyson Hello Wonderful Friends! 1. Where I'm From #100 Yesterday, we celebrated the 100th episode of Where I'm From (!!!) with my special guest, Cody Shelton. You may know him because he's my fantastic husband, TV producer and all around great guy. Thank you to everyone who's been a part of this series, watched, commented and/or shared it. It's my privilege and joy to listen to these poems every week. Come join me! For real! Even if you're not on Instagram, we can record on Zoom, it's easy. Since my last newsletter I've had these gold star guests join me, and yes, in my opinion, every guest is a gold star guest: #89 Paul McGuigan #90 Michelle Bowdler #91 A.R. Farina #92 Blake Byles #93 Tammy Evans #94 Roz Morris #95 Sara Letourneau #96 Elizabeth Marian Charles #97 Katherine Anne Gilbert #98 Natalie Serianni #99 Brenan Yack #100 Cody Shelton 2. Loss of a Lifetime: Sibling Loss Anthology As many of you know, my brother Michael died when I was ten years old. It shaped the course of my life though I didn't realize it, I was mostly surviving and trying to move on or move forward and find some semblance of peace. One of the many gifts my complicated relationship with the internet has given me is a community of others who've lost their siblings. Even though sibling loss happens, it is the sort of bereavement that receives little focus and you can see that in the lack of literature around it. Lynn Shattuck, brilliant writer and friend, has been working on an anthology about sibling loss for some time and I've joined as a co-editor. I'm looking forward to finding a home for this anthology and sharing it with all of you. 3. Fine Cut It continues to be a blast connecting with people I adore and talking about media that's made an impact on us. Recent episodes of Fine Cut include: 9/L.L. Kirchner 10/A.R. Farina 11/Meera Vijayann 12/Liz Santoro 4. What I'm Reading Wow, I've read some real bangers lately but in the contemplative sense of the word. Thinning Blood: A Memoir of Family, Myth and Identity by Leah Meyers - I loved it. An incredible book that braids together seemingly disparate elements to form a cohesive and impactful whole. Blurb from Bookshop.Org "Leah Myers may be the last member of the Jamestown S'Klallam Tribe in her family line, due to her tribe's strict blood quantum laws. In this unflinching and intimate memoir, Myers excavates the stories of four generations of women in order to leave a record of her family." Ordinary Notes by Christina Sharpe - This book feels like sitting in on a soul-defining, private conversation. It changed the author and it changed me too. Blurb from Bookshop.Org "A singular achievement, Ordinary Notes explores profound questions about loss and the shapes of Black life that emerge in the wake. In a series of 248 notes that gather meaning as we read them, Christina Sharpe skillfully weaves artifacts from the past--public ones alongside others that are poignantly personal--with present realities and possible futures, intricately constructing an immersive portrait of everyday Black existence." The Crying Book by Heather Christle - Yes, as a crier I am the target audience for this book, also it's so beautiful. Blurb from Bookshop.Org "Heather Christle has just lost a dear friend to suicide and now must reckon with her own depression and the birth of her first child. As she faces her grief and impending parenthood, she decides to research the act of crying: what it is and why people do it, even if they rarely talk about it." 5. What I'm Watching - BARBIE The joy of Barbie! (Do you see that Barbie townhouse?!? Dreams do come true!) Feeling it as a young girl and feeling it again now. Barbies were kind of my life when I was young. It was the toy I asked for every time someone asked me what I might like. And then they started asking, "What would you like other than a Barbie?" Which would really tick me off. You asked me what I wanted. I told you. Some people would tease me (a lot) about my love of Barbie and so this movie, this wonderful, incredible, joyful, surprising, empowering, funny, PINK movie has felt validating and especially fun for me. And thank goodness Ria saw it and we found a time to talk about it for Femme on Film. You can listen to us chat about it HERE. I hope you've seen Barbie or some of the press and felt validated or acknowledged. I'm grateful there's a movie that celebrates a toy that anchored my young life and talks about the patriarchy and how f***ing unbelievable it is that we all live with it and accept that it is normal. It's not. Thank you for reading my newsletter. I love connecting with you, if you lived closer I'd hand delivery you some peaches from our trees.
Please let me know what you're reading, watching and thinking about this Summer. Hugs, Alyson *If you or anyone you know is interested in participating in Where I'm From, let me know! Hello friends! These past few weeks have been chock full of milestones for me and I am doing my best to celebrate them instead of quietly filing them away and moving on to whatever is NEXT. 1. I finished the first draft of my memoir. (Working title: "A Kickass Book I Wrote" cause I wrote a book and yay, that's hard), I am making a deliberate point of sharing this news, being proud of it and celebrating the thing I set out to do. Write a first draft by June 1st. My biggest fan awaiting my debut, also bacon. I know there is so much, MUCH more work to do and I am being intentional about celebrating and acknowledging the process. I think my creative happiness lay firmly grounded in finding joy in the process because product, well, let’s be honest, whoever knows how that is going to go? 2. 20 years of marriage to Cody! Another moment I am breathing in. When I was young, I did not think married life, and definitely not happily married life was for me. Big (and joyful surprise) it is! On our honeymoon in Australia, hanging out with rescue kangaroos. 3. 3 years since I published my first ever essay in Ms. Magazine. I’m proud to be the tiniest part of Ms. And I feel it’s important to highlight what George Tyndall did and how USC turned a blind eye for years. It cost them over $1 billion but I know, without a doubt, he would still be abusing patients it if was not for the brave group of women who came forward. And here's a quick update on a few other things: 1. Some of you may know I'm involved with the Project for Advancing Health Stewardship at University of Minnesota. I've attended almost every (FREE) virtual forum over the past couple of years and I LOVE it. The community, the writing prompts, the time taken to consider the idea and potential steps forward in Healthcare Stewardship are powerful. You can sign up for the free forums, that start in June, RIGHT HERE. And the October forum will be guest facilitated by Me with a presentation by my good friend and brilliant thinker, Kim Rowe. Come check us out! 2. #90 of Where I’m From this Tuesday! I continue to be both impressed and grateful for each and every guest. Since my last newsletter I've heard poems and been in conversation with: #81 Jess Davies #82 Lisa Rayne #83 Elise McCall #84 Heidi Barr #85 Sara Blair #86 Maud Newton #87 Jo-Ann S. Finkelstein #88 Dan Brazier 3. Femme On, lots of great episodes! I love being in conversation with so many awesome people, including: Dr. Ingrid Clayton, Amy Bobeda, Ivana Shein and Kim Rowe. 4. What I’m Reading Wow, so many excellent books, that continue to expand my understanding of the world and myself. Thanks to my friend A.R. Farina for recommending, Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World by Jenn Granneman and Andre Sólo There’s a reason I cry all of the time. And they wrote a book about it. (Special shout to A.R., who's YA Jane Austen retell Welcome to Mansfield comes out Monday, congrats!) And here’s one that I want to talk about with everyone I know, because so MANY reasons. If you’ve read it, let’s CHAT. Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma by Claire Dederer 5, What I’m Thinking About: SUCCESS What goal are you trying to reach? Creatively? Personally? What is it? And what does it mean to you? I just recorded an episode of Femme On Creatives with the wonderfully talented and delightful, Claire Keane. We spoke about finding our creative voices and interwoven with that is defining what success means to us. Claire said, “It comes down to how do I want to live this one life that I have?”
And I want to collaborate, tell stories, hear stories, and be a part of something that reminds me (and others if possible) we’re not alone. In my one life, I know, we are in this together. Keep writing. Keep thinking. Keep believing in yourself. I do. Alyson *If you know someone who you think might be interested in my newsletter, please forward it, I'd love that! Happy April! I hope that the weather where you are is settling down. Here in Southern California we appear to be on the other side of the torrential rain (now called atmospheric rivers, apparently we had 12 this year) and now I am delighting in abundant wildflowers. I never tire of pointing out wildflowers and stopping and looking at them and I appreciate everyone in my life that humors my relentless enthusiasm. April is National Poetry Month, JOY! And over the last 18 months, the power of poetry has roared back into my life first through George Ella Lyon's poem, "Where I'm From" and then through the associated prompts by Fred First and the ongoing IG live weekly series. Here are a few collages with childhood pictures from a sampling of the participants (I really never tire of seeing childhood photos). Last week my 80th guest joined me! It's astonishing. And wonderful. Making time each week, sometimes twice a week, to listen to another's words has changed my writing and I think, my life. And this series and my rekindled love for poetry goes beyond "Where I'm From." I am revisiting poetry I loved in my teens and early twenties (mostly Sylvia Plath) and finding new poetry to love now Some of my current faves are National Poet Laureate Ada Limón and Ross Gay, champion of joy and delight. You can find a list of every single one of the 80 participants and links to the IG lives HERE. All of the videos are also on YouTube, find them HERE. My podcast, Fine Cut and the whole Femme On family is rolling along with new content being released twice a week, on Tuesdays and Thursdays. A like, a listen, a follow and/or a review are powerful things for a little podcast like ours. You can find links to each of my Fine Cut episodes HERE. There are awesome chats with Elise McCall, Jen Prince, Anjali Bhimani, Ria Carrogan and Ellen Birkett Morris. Along with a very special conversation with Academy Award nominated creator and writer of "My Year of Dicks" Pamela Ribon. For the first time this year I took part in March Fadness, an online music writing contest with brackets and competition inspired by NCAA March Madness. This year's theme was 1980's One Hit Wonders and I picked "Easy Lover' by Philip Bailey and Phil Collins. A song I never tire of hearing, a true BOP and a balm to my soul during a very difficult time. You can read my essay HERE. And here's a bonus super 80's pic of me and a friend, YAY! What have you been reading and watching? We've watched The Last of Us and we talked about the Women of the Last of Us for Femme on TV, listen HERE. And we're rewatching The Office cause, as always, I love to laugh. I read so many wonderful books, recently these two really hit me: A Woman's Story by Annie Ernaux Like so many people I became interested in Ernaux after she won the Nobel Prize and this book is such a powerful meditation on grief and the death of Ernaux's mother. She examines and explores the question, "What makes a life?" Sam by Allegra Goodman Sam is a book about life and many things that all of us go through; going to school, falling in love, finding hobbies, fighting with our families and searching for ourselves. It is also a book about growing up with an addict in your family, something many of us can relate to. And I thought it was handled so deftly and with such care. I couldn't put it down. I'll leave you with a picture of a future Monarch butterfly and some Instagram wisdom from writer and actor Will Reynolds that lifted me up:
"My definition of an artist? An artist processes their lived experience in public so that others may process their lived experience in private. Art is ALWAYS an act of service." So if you're feeling like your art or self-expression doesn't matter - IT DOES. Thanks for reading and being in my life, I appreciate you! Alyson Happy 2023! Actually, happy almost February! Feeling grateful for all the natural beauty I've witnessed these past months. Here are Cody and I enjoying a stunning American Thanksgiving in Vancouver. Lucky us! I've had the great fortune of becoming friends with and guesting on many podcasts with the Comics in Motion Network, in particular with Femme on Film and Ria Carrogan. When she approached me and three other incredible women, Tonya Todd, Jess Davies and Ada McCartney about expanding Femme On into a larger podcasting collective I said "yes" before I really knew what we were creating, because I was that excited about creating something with these women. Femme On launched at the beginning of the year and it offers a little bit of everything. My show, Fine Cut, keeps it brief and meaningful with episodes around 20 minutes long. A guest and I closely read a scene of the guest's choosing from movies, TV, comic books, novels, any media really as a way to have a deeper conversion about a topic that's meaningful to them. If you have a moment to listen, fantastic, it's available wherever you find your podcast and if you're so inclined subscribe, rate and review the podcast too. It really helps! 2. Essays There is No Escape at Voices of Addiction at The Rumpus When I first became aware of the Voices on Addiction column at The Rumpus I dreamed of being a part of it and now I am with a piece of writing of which I am extremely proud. How to Hold Love at Pithead Chapel I haven't written much about Cody and I did with this essay. I love the guy a lot. The Bible at The Keepthings Love being a part of this incredible Instagram account, the Keepthings with a story about my relationship with Cody's Grammie and one of the many keepthings she left behind. 3. Where I'm From
I'm recording #70 this week, exciting! I have so many incredible writers scheduled to join me in 2023. And the series continues to be such a source of joy and inspiration for me. Please join us sometime or watch the replays on Instagram or YouTube. 4. What I'm Watching and Reading Slow Horses on Apple+ I'm mildly obsessed, it's espionage annnd what happens to them when they go home. They're fallible and complicated and hilarious. One of the actors, Saskia Reeves, described it as "James Bond with farts." Which is not wrong but it's even more than that, highly recommend. Inciting Joy: Essays by Ross Gay If you're feeling like joy is a waste of time (it's not!) read this book. Here is a quote I love, "What does joy incite? - I should say, I have a hunch, and it's why I think discussion of joy is so important. My hunch is that joy is an ember for or precursor to wild and unpredictable and transgressive and unboundaried solidarity. And that solidarity might incite further joy. And so on and on." Read the book for more. 5. Words of inspiration Last month, I was feeling down about my writing, one of those, "who cares, what's the point, etc." It happens and after sitting with it for some time I made a brave and new choice, I reached out to someone I like and deeply respect and she wrote back, "In times of Great Doubt these words of Nikky Finney really helped me. They still do. 'You must be taken with yourself to do anything well in this life. Anything...I'm talking about looking yourself in the mirror and understanding that you have come here to do something...To be taken with yourself is to say: I have come to do this. I am here to do this well.' That she took the time to write me back and show her support and solidarity means the world to me. And now these words live in me. I hope these words offer you some solace when you are struggling. Let's tell our stories, we can do this. Alyson Happy November to all! We have hit that time of year, where I just hold onto the pommel of my metaphorical saddle and hang on. Life is busy! It is a wonderful thing to be out seeing people, traveling and having fun, yes, and I need a nap. More than one nap. Here's what's happening here: 1. Where I'm From At the end of August I had the joy of interviewing and listening to the poetry of George Ella Lyon, the writer of the original "Where I'm From" poem and poet laureate of Kentucky. In all of my interactions with George Ella, she has impressed me with her generosity and brilliance, this conversation is no different. Give it a listen HERE, if you haven't already, if only to be reminded that poetry belongs to all of us. The "Where I'm From" series is up to #58 and there are many, many more to come. Please reach out if you are interested in joining me, the invitation is always open. Accomplished writer, editor and journalist, Andrea A. Firth reached out to interview me about the "Where I'm From'' series for the Brevity Blog. Big thanks to Andrea for reaching out and asking such wonderful questions. I enjoyed our conversation and the opportunity to reflect on what drew me to this exercise at the beginning and why I find it so compelling today. Read the interview HERE. 2. Essays Speaking of Brevity Blog, they also published a craft piece I wrote entitled, "The Sanctity of the First Read" inspired by my passionate feelings about holding our work close, guarding our words and our voices, until we are truly ready to share them. Read the full piece HERE And, after chatting a bit about sex scenes in movies on the podcast, Femme on Film: Hearts & Vaginas (can you really beat that title? The answer is no. Listen HERE) I wrote about them for the premiere issue of Alice Says Go F**k Yourself (another kickass title!), you can read about some of my favorite sex scenes HERE. 3. REBURN store is open! Issues #1 - #4 print and digital copies are available on our website. We think Reburn would an incredibly awesome holiday gift for the feminist you love or like or admire or just want to give a gift. In case you missed it, it's an all-female creative team. We're deeply proud of the book and grateful for all of your support - we couldn't have done it without you! Speaking of, Reburn artist Elise McCall and I had the immense privilege of sitting down to chat with Mike Burton of Genuine Chit Chat to discuss our collaboration and all the many things we loved about creating and telling the story of the first arc of Reburn. Listen HERE. 4. What I'm Reading What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo Foo writes about her childhood trauma, which was horrific, but the vast majority of the book is about her healing process and finding hope. She writes about what she lived through so we can understand where she came from and how intimidating and overwhelming it can feel, at times, to face down trauma and work through it. And to understand the temptation to engage in palliative care versus curative care, it feels easier but in the end curative care is necessary if we really want to heal. I can't recommend this book highly enough for survivors of complex trauma. An always needed reminder that we're not alone. Acceptance: A Memoir by Emi Nietfeld This memoir follows Nietfeld and her journey from foster youth to a full ride at Harvard and how incredibly complex a journey like that is. It's also about the role of victimhood. And how Nietfield learns, and how each of us do too, that certain types of victimhood are more "acceptable" than others. Powerful. Firekeeper's Daughter by Angeline BoulleyThe book is an engrossing, thought provoking and fun page turner that happens to be YA. In the afterword, the author, Angeline Boulley, writes about wanting to create an indigenous Nancy Drew. I did not make that connection while reading the book and yes, the main character Daunis is an incredible detective full of knowledge, tenacity and love. She is also way more complicated and fascinating to me than Nancy Drew, but it did make me smile to imagine girls picking up this book and devouring it the way I did Nancy Drew and "The Sign of the Twisted Candles." 5. One Last Thing As many of you know, Banned Books are some of my favorite books to read and Banned Books Week happened in September. Super supportive and coincidentally the hardest working person I know, Tonya Todd, hosted a Banned Books Podcast and asked me to join her! So grateful to take part in a wonderful conversation about one of my favorite books, Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You: A Remix of the National Book Award-Winning Stamped from the Beginning by Ibram X. Kendi and Jason Reynolds. If you read one book, read this one. See us chatting below and listen to our conversation HERE. 've had the extreme good fortune of collaborating with and being in conversation with so many joyously talented and amazing people. I cannot mention all of you here, but please know, I am filled with gratitude and wonder that this is my life and thank you for being a part of it.
I hope this coming season brings you abundant delights, connection to the ones you love and the natural world. Big Hugs, Alyson *For more info, follow me on Instagram @byalysonshelton Also, please forward this to your favorite poetry loving pal. We are legion. |
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